The Life Changing Magic of ‘Perfection’
Perfect isn’t real and real isn’t perfect
I keep seeing this quote everywhere I look at the moment. At the core of this statement is some real heartfelt truth. Striving for what we perceive the definition of perfection to be can be exhausting, identity stripping and all in all, downright joy sucking!
So we have a focus on ‘letting go’ of perfect. Embracing the chaos,the mess, the hair sprouting from the mole on your arse and the rollercoaster of emotions and experiences life brings. That’s certainly where I’ve been sitting. I believe that being present and perfect are two separate things. But I ask this. Why is embracing the chaos, the mess, the Mrs Twit worthy mole and the rollercoaster…imperfection?
I personally refer to my own brand as ‘Simple Living’. In fact, wellness is often just that. It’s stripping things back to basics, before we second guessed ourselves and allowing the time to just create space. Creating space is a really helpful tool I’ve come to use in my life, scheduling space as part of my weekly timetable.
I’ve spent much of my business life rushing around from A to B. I thrive on it actually as I have always worked for myself and been passionate about what I am working on. However, I have found that if I don’t ‘create space’ for the things that quieten my mind and bring me distraction from life and some peace, my work actually suffers. My productivity becomes low and my mind is unable to focus on the tasks that need to be done. I guess over time I have learnt (am still learning) that we, our bodies, are like batteries. You’ve got to charge yourself up. Because if you don’t you will run out of steam and the things you want to achieve will become out of reach. Amazingly, when I have applied this to my work and everyday life, my work has not suffered. I repeat, it did not suffer. This is every entrepreneurs biggest fear. It can be mentally challenging to believe that by working less you could achieve more, but it is true. It actually increased my creativity levels which subsequently helped my businesses to grow.
With space, comes perspective, the ability to be objective about goals and decision making and you quickly become quite precious about your ‘space’ rather than being in control all the time which in turn seems to give you the nudge to delegate.
This concept applies to so much I’ve come to learn. As a mum, I have begun to see that space is likely to have a positive effect on my ability to cope with the rollercoaster of emotions that motherhood brings. Sometimes it’s a decision between cooking dinner and finishing the washing. I used to write lists and lists of all the things I needed to ‘tackle’ before the day was done. But now I make sure I physically write ‘space’ in those lists, and chuck out the few things that took up that spot before. Suddenly it bothers me less because it’s filled with something of real value. Space. My space. You know there is a reason that they tell you to put your oxygen mask on first in an emergency landing on a plane.
So, this takes me back to the title of this blog post and that saying ‘perfect isn’t real, and real isn’t perfect’. It bothers me. Well, bothered me should I say. It’s not wrong, but it feels negative. In some way we are being encouraged to accept imperfections. Defined a faults, blemishes, undesired. Why are they imperfections? What if our minds have just been conditioned to believe they are faults, blemishes or undesired. What if the very idea that you recognise the importance of making time to meditate instead of agitate, stroll instead of scroll, exercise instead of agonise, think when on the brink…what if all that makes you perfect in every way?
When looking up the definition of perfection is gives the example ‘a perfect embodiment of something‘. What if you are the perfect embodiment of what it is to live peacefully and with acceptance of the 21st century fast lane and the fact you must create space in order to live a happy life? What if the very imperfections we come to love and accept is what makes us perfect after all? It’s a nice thought isn’t it?
So I propose this. A positive take on perfection. Take that word, and make yourself the embodiment of something true to you, simple but meaningful. Create that life and know that you are perfection in doing so.
‘A perfect embodiment of a life that makes you happy’ rather than ‘Perfect isn’t real’. What do you think?
Heaps of love and positivity