The Happy Me Project

The Happy Me Project meets @mutha.hood

Meet Gemma @mutha.hood

If you’ve not seen the ‘STRONG GIRLS CLUB’ takeover on Instagram, then I am going to have to assume you’ve been living under a rock. With printed merch becoming ever the booming market, this girl is basically the Beyonce of that trend. (If you are yet to glimpse at the new range, might I suggest that you put any life choices you are about to make on hold, purely to go peruse!)

But Gemma isn’t just known for her epic range. What has always drawn me to Gemma most is the solidarity that comes across for women. To say she makes me feel empowered is an understatement. And it’s not all glossy motivational quotes. Gemma shares the raw truth and vulnerability she has felt, as a mother, as a business owner and as a woman. She is colourful, she is kind and she is the epitome of what it is to be team girl. It is such a pleasure to share with you her take on happiness. (Just wait ’til you reach her life mantra- I’m totally taking it as my own Gem!) Enjoy.

Life In A Snapshot

Girl loses herself after PNA, DVT, and PTSD thanks to childbirth. Decides to dedicate her time to helping women, in particular mums, to know their strength, value and worth. Talks a lot on Stories. Stalks the likes of Erica Davies a little too much. Believes that dressing like an exuberant flamingo entering a rainbow disco really is the only way to approach life.

 

What makes you the happiest?

 

Laughing with my two girls, preferably with a family bar of Dairy Milk in one hand.

 

 

Who is your happy person? 

 

My youngest Red, Marni. She’s crazy, wild, fun and always keen for a giggle. She also just lives for the moment. If she wants to lick the wallpaper just to check if it’s flavoured she just does it. #bemoremarni #butalwayscarryantibac

 

 

How do you reset on a bad day? 

My girls and I have coined the phrase ‘press the reset button.’ We instantly flash our belly buttons, give them a push and away we go. It usually gives us the laugh that we need to put what’s going on into perspective.

Failing that I tell myself that it’s okay to have a minute. Find somewhere quiet, even if it’s just

the toilet, remind myself that today is merely a drop in the ocean of time, and start again.

 

 

When it is time to stop and take check? 

 

When even the most basic tasks feel overwhelming. I find barriers help really well with this. I don’t have notifications on my phone, when it comes to household chores I set a timer for half an hour in the morning and half an hour before bed, and blitz what I can in that time, and I live for my slow cooker. Berta has been kind to us when trying to juggle.

 

 

How do you nourish your mind and body? What does ‘nourishment’ mean to you?

Nourishment to me is about taking care of yourself, being kind to your body and mind and trying not to be so critical of yourself. I’m trying really hard to have a Magnesium flake bath two times a week, I light some candles, I’ve bought some fancy soap, I pop some music on and I make an evening of relaxing. I am my own worst enemy and I make work for myself. Who doesn’t NEED to sand and oil the kitchen worktops instead of having a cup of tea? This year, my goal is to lower my own expectations of myself.

 

 

Reflecting on the hardest time in your own 

life, what practical steps did you take to get you back on a happier pathway?    

The birth of my second daughter was horrendous. I can say that now. It took a long time to give it the gravitas that it deserved. The first step was recognising the impact that it had on my emotional well being, to not belittle my reaction to it and to acknowledge that I needed help. Seeking help does not make you weak. I was very kindly offered EMDR therapy by my local NHS Trust and it’s not until 6 months later, now that I’m discharged from their services, that I can see the impact that the trauma had on me.

 

What is ‘happiness’ defined by you? 

 

Feeling content with life and finding the joy in the simple things in life without worrying about what others might think of you.

 

 

Mantra you live by 

My opinion is important.

 

 

 

Favourite place in the world? Raggdale Hall Spa (come on, you’re in a dressing gown 24/7 and you can nap at will)

 

Instagrammer who makes you feel good? I really, honestly, can’t pick just one. I’ve found some truly amazing women on The Gram and I actually get quite emotional at how grateful I am to them for getting me through some tough times. (They don’t even know how much)

@gettingstuffdoneinheels @erica_davies @featheringtheemptynest @makedoandpush @cocoandindie_ @thatmumwithcancer @carasuthers @inpolife @mother_of_daughters

There are more, but the list would take over the whole page!

 

If you could have any super power? Regenerate bars of chocolate

 

Biggest addiction? Bars of chocolate

 

Biggest strength? The speed at which I can eat said bars of chocolate.

 

Biggest weakness? Chris Pratt

 

Nicknames? BFG, JimJam, Gems, LlamaLady

 

Guilty pleasure? An hour in TKMaxx/Homesense child free

 

Current favourite song?  Sigrid – Strangers….Big Red knows all the words.

Gemma has an amazing new range of merch available on her site and you can treat yourself just in time for Valentine’s Day by clicking here

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